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Learning Through Other People's Experience: Why Self-Awareness Matters

There are things we can learn from others. We can get the picture, we can sometimes slightly feel it, and we can try to make sure we don’t fall into the same messes in our lifetimes. That’s a way of avoiding pain, right? Self-improvement books, podcasts, and videos are made by people who have mostly gone through these experiences. We get a view of their world. We try to imagine being in their shoes and see the lessons they learned. But what happens when you are the one experiencing something for the first time? When you have to go through all those emotions yourself, are you sure you’ll follow what you’ve watched, read, or listened to? You are a whole human being with different emotions, a unique brain that functions differently, and a life shaped by your childhood, teenage years, and adulthood. These resources are meant to give us methods. They open our minds to creativity — to ask: How can I handle this? It is never a one-time thing. You develop, you learn, and you create through you...

Slowly becoming

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When I look at my small single room today, I can’t help but feel proud of how far I’ve come. In the beginning, it was so hard moving out from my aunt’s place. I constantly battled between enjoying the peace of living alone and fearing if I would truly survive on my own. This morning, after doing laundry, cleaning my room, and washing a few dirty dishes, I paused and looked around. Suddenly, I felt a wave of happiness. People often shame single rooms, but I love mine. To me, this space represents growth, independence, and the beginning of something greater. One day, I know I will own a big apartment that is entirely mine, and the foundation of that dream starts right here. I even see the energy of this space reflected in my plants. They are flourishing, and I believe it’s because of the positive energy surrounding them. Recently, I bought a shoe rack, and by the end of this month, I plan to get a chair. These may seem like small steps, but to me, they are signs of becoming. Slowly, I am...

No Feelings On Twitter!

Sometimes feelings hit you so fast and messy, you can’t even think straight. You try to play it cool, but your heart keeps writing its own story. Here’s me, overthinking, laughing, crying, and falling all at once, my messy, raw journey of catching feelings I didn’t plan to. It starts as a simple reply to a funny tweet. "Girl, you are funny!" Repost! Like! Quote! One midday, a hello in the DMs, just a dry reply. Then more: "Your Insta looks great!" Ooh, thank you. More likes on Insta stories, several ignored replies. Ooh, he shares several videos… duuh, I won’t watch all that stuff! Left on read. Likes story, replies to story; this time, an answer back. Ooh girl, what a flirty answer. "Can we meet?" Yes sure, Wednesday is perfect! Calls , girl, ignore that! 2pm: "Are we still meeting?" “No, sorry, I got a little busy.” “Okay. Next time then?” Sure. Smiles. Ooh, night calls? Why not? Several minutes calls… ooh, 6-hour calls. Late-night calls crosso...

And Then I saw Her

Tieno has been having it hard emotionally for the past few days. She has tried her best to be calm after Tekan betrayed her and slept with her now ex-best friend Maua. They had built the best friendship people dream about with Maua. She included her in everything, and when she met Tekan, Maua had been so supportive and encouraged her to accept dating him. Now Maua and Tekan are together; living under the same roof, making love, kissing, and making cute videos to post online. Of course, they have been getting some hateful comments, but that hasn’t stopped the love they have for each other. Tieno had never seen this coming. When she found out, she didn’t react. “I have to confess that I love her and want to start dating her, Tieno. I know this news will sound so bad to you, and your heart is breaking, but I can’t pretend anymore,” Tekan told her after calling her to come to Botanica, a restaurant Tieno loved to visit. “How long has this been going on? I mean your love for her?” Tieno ask...

Malon's Obsession 4

Never?! These words rang through my mind all night. I was scared! What if he didn’t want the divorce and decided to complicate my life? I was awake, I couldn’t sleep at all. I didn’t know what to do. Around three in the morning, I looked at my phone. An idea crossed my mind. I texted the number Malon had tricked me with. "Hello, I know this is weird. I wanted to let you know that I confronted Kings about his secret. I told him I wanted a divorce, and he said 'never'! I feel scared now, and I don’t know what to do." I wrote the message, wanting so badly to send it to him, but I couldn’t. Instead, I ended up texting, "I need you. Can I see you tomorrow?"  A reply popped up almost immediately. "Yes, I will always be here for you, Phy. Always." I regretted sending that message. What was I thinking? At 3 a.m.? This was madness. I stared at the ceiling, feeling stressed. I turned uncomfortably and decided to go out onto the balcony and watch the sky. The...

Locs Essentials You Should Know

Because your crown deserves the best care; We often pile tons of products on our hair, chasing dreams of healthier, longer, shinier strands, or maybe just trying to grow back that rebellious hairline . But guess what? The real hack most people overlook is simple. Let Your Hair Breathe! Yes, seriously. Especially if you have locs like I do. I’ve rocked loose natural hair before, but now I'm fully committed to my loc journey, and in my next post, I’ll share tips for both worlds. So stay tuned. The Starter Phase: Where the Journey Begins Getting locs to actually loc is the toughest part for many. This stage requires regular retwists, usually every 1 to 2 weeks and lots of styling to keep them from unraveling. But once they lock in,  congratulations, you’ve just entered the next wild ride! The Budding Stage: Frizz, Freedom & Patience This stage is a whole rollercoaster. Some locs are locked, some are still fighting the process, and the frizz? Oh, it’s real. For some, budding feels ...